Hating on Others Won’t Make You Happier (So Why Bother?)
Let’s be real—we’ve all seen someone doing well and had that little voice in the back of our head say:
“They don’t deserve that.”
“Must be nice…”
“If I had what they had, I’d be doing even better.”
Maybe you’ve even thrown some shade before, whether out loud or in your mind. It happens.
But here’s the truth: Hating on others does absolutely nothing for you. It doesn’t make you richer, smarter, happier, or more successful. If anything, it just keeps you stuck in the same place while they keep moving forward.
1. Hating = Wasted Energy That Could Be Spent on YOU
Think about it—every second spent talking down on someone, being jealous, or gossiping is time you could be using to:
✅ Learn something new
✅ Improve your own situation
✅ Focus on your own goals
Meanwhile, the person you’re hating on? They’re still doing their thing, unbothered. So who’s really losing here?
2. Someone Else’s Success Doesn’t Take Away from Yours
One of the biggest lies people believe is that if someone else is winning, it means there’s less for them. But success isn’t a limited resource.
Just because someone:
Got rich young doesn’t mean you never will.
Bought a new car doesn’t mean you can’t get one too.
Has a thriving business doesn’t mean you can’t build yours.
Instead of feeling some type of way about what someone else has, ask yourself how you can get there too.
3. Hate Usually Comes from Insecurity
Let’s be honest—most hate comes from a place of frustration or insecurity. When people feel stuck, struggling, or overlooked, it’s easier to criticize someone else’s wins than to face their own situation.
But blaming others never improves your life.
If you feel jealous, ask yourself why—is it because you actually want what they have?
If so, use it as motivation instead of resentment.
Instead of saying “must be nice,” ask “how did they do it?”
4. Being Happy for Others Attracts More Wins for You
The wild thing about supporting others instead of hating? It actually puts you in a better position.
You learn more. When you celebrate someone’s success, you open the door to learning from them instead of resenting them.
You attract better energy. Nobody wants to be around people who are bitter all the time.
You build connections. The same people you used to envy could end up helping you level up.
5. Your Biggest Competition is YOU
At the end of the day, the only person you should be competing with is yourself.
Focus on YOUR progress.
Celebrate YOUR wins.
Use inspiration, not jealousy, to push yourself forward.
Because trust me—there’s no happiness in being a hater. It doesn’t fill your pockets. It doesn’t build success. And it sure doesn’t bring peace.
Final Thoughts
Hating on others might give a temporary ego boost, but it does nothing for your long-term happiness or success. Instead of putting energy into bringing others down, put that same energy into building yourself up.
So next time you catch yourself hating, pause and ask: "How can I use this as motivation instead?"
Because life’s too short to waste time being bitter—go get yours.